Crime or not a Crime

Is it torture to match a family with a child waiting to be adopted, have the family accept and then make the family wait nearly a year before being allowed to pick up their forever kid?   YES

Is it best for the child to make him wait in an orphanage or a foster family for a year after he has been matched?  NO

Adoption is all about the child's best interest! Is it not? 

So is it a crime to allow an orphan to be out of his forever family for a year after they started loving and preparing for him?  YES

I would love your thoughts! 

A rant and food for thought! 

Ciao, 

Shell 

My Thai boy is in foster care

Foster care is a blessing to the waiting mother. (me)
So, how do you show deep gratitude to a woman who has taken care of my baby? Well, how would you thank someone who cared for your sweet child for any time..Holt's guide book say this!

Foster parents’ thoughts and prayers for the children don’t end when the children leave Thailand. They
seek reassurance that you and the child have returned to the U.S. safely and the child is growing and
progressing normally. Due to this, we ask that you send at least 4-6 pictures and a letter within two
weeks after your arrival home. In the letter you will need to thank them for the care of your child. It is
important that you periodically send them letters and pictures as well to let them know how your child is doing. Please send this letter and pictures to us via mail or email, and we will forward them on for you. if you fail to do this it may cause some concern for the foster parents. As mentioned, this has been “their child” for quite some time. By sending letters and pictures this will help to ease the loss they have suffered."

So please remind me of this when we get back from Thailand..when ever that may be?

Ciao
Shell

How to make the wait for your child easier?

There is actually a page in the Guide book on How to make the wait for my child easier.

This is some of the advice it gives:
"Once you accept a particular child (after receiving whatever limited medical information
is available), think of that child as yours, just as if he or she had been born to you. The
agency cannot guarantee that the child will arrive free of problems, any more than an
obstetrician can guarantee that any baby will be born free of birth defects or a difficult
personality. Becoming a parent involves taking these risks."
"Discuss your feelings with your local agency and with those who have adopted. Your
local home study agency, which often is not the agency handling the placement, may be a
good resource for helping you endure the wait. (You may feel freer to vent your anger
and frustration at the process in the presence of a social worker who knows you well and s not an employee of the agency processing your adoption.)"
"Give yourself some enjoyable new projects to take your mind off your worries."

Well, that is about it! I am feeling this is not making my wait easier! Prayer....
So, please pray for us Francos. Tony, ME, Sage, J Bird and P(who just had his b day with out his mother...me). All of us need prayer.

And help me think of a new project! Or help me with one i have been putting off!

Thanks for stopping by.
Ciao
Rochelle